By Monica Anderson
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04 Sep, 2022
In today’s day and age, there are many stimulating things that can piss us off. Politics, love, people, circumstances, existential dread. Some great words of wisdom were given to me concerning that. Another cup of tea I’ll provide for you is that only you and you alone are in control of your reality. It is up to you to set boundaries with people, eat healthy, exercise, grow in whatever field you want to be working in, etc. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you realize the unlimited power behind this principle. Instead of having external factors stimulating your amygdala, sending you into a rage, you should focus on the things you can control, internally. In short, nothing can make you mad, and strong-minded people understand this. Focus on the factors that you can control, and if it’s something you can’t control, let it be, reflect on it, and heal from it. An impenetrable mind is far more significant than any fortress. There isn’t anything you can’t do with a strong mind. Some strong minds in this decade are Mark Zuckerberg, Beyonce, Elon Musk, and Oprah. These people all have very strong minds, and visions of the lives they desire. They’ve manifested entire careers based on their visions in life, and you can do the same. This starts with a strong mind, and a strong mind starts with control over what makes you angry, and what you give time to in life. This principle is key to understanding when to fight and when to evade. Pick and choose your battles wisely, because it’s what you’re giving energy and life in your life. So if you want to go to college, or start a business, or do something equally great if not greater, then do that! Don’t put energy and effort into aspects that aren’t necessary for you in your life. Period. There are many challenges in life and more times than not there will be people who challenge you and who test you, and make you want to act outside your natural character. Don’t let external sources alter your mind: strong-minded people understand this principle and do not let things (or people) they cannot control bother them. It’s a fight you’ll lose every time you try. So just do you! It’s super important to know when to fight, speak, listen, and let go. Here's an example on the significance. Choose your battles wisely. You have to know if you actually get into a fight, (and I'm not talking about physical fight, I'm talking about any kind of battle) you have to make a choice. You have to realize that all of your choices come with consequences, whether they are good or bad, there are going to be consequences. You have to take responsibility for those consequences. This is why you should always take time to consider your options, and your choices before deciding. You should never make any spontaneous decisions regarding any topic that is important to you. It's okay to be spontaneous in life, but when you're making a choice in life you have to consider it and take into consideration the consequences of it. Does it benefit you? Is it helping or hurting you? Will this lead you to accomplish your goals? Once you consider this, then you'll be fit to make a choice. You should never make any choice out of anger, which is why you should know when to speak. Not everyone is worth your energy. In order to protect yourself and your energy, you have to understand that if someone is not for you, and their energy is not for you, then you do not have to engage in any kind of exchange in energy. Just like if somebody is for you, and you want to speak to them, it is your choice to do so. Know, however, that it is always your choice, and know that your choices will have consequences that you will reap. Decide when to fight and when to speak, and as far as letting go, this goes back to the article I wrote on being happy and forgiving. You have to let go of the trauma in your life; if you don't the only person that's going to be affected directly is you. In return, you're going to affect people indirectly through your own actions and character. Heal your trauma (and it can be any kind of trauma) and let go, release, and leave negative emotions in the past and behind you. A way that you can do that, is just to simply talk about it. Counseling, therapy, group-therapy, even just writing in a diary or journal. That's the best way to get through any kind of trauma. I don't know where I heard it, but I was once told that if you can talk about something without crying, then you're no longer traumatized by it, and it no longer holds any power over you. I truly believe that because I’ve actually experienced it with my childhood trauma. A few years ago, I realized that I can actually talk about my parents and their situation without bursting into tears. and having my day ruined. I realized once I got there, it was such a great feeling, and it was just empowering in and of itself. I felt strong. Another way I was able to heal is that I worked on all of the things that I loved doing. I worked on getting myself to be the person that I wanted to be. I manifested my reality, made them really clear with myself. I was able to create the lifestyle that I wanted based on my feelings. You have to respect yourself first. If you don't respect yourself, and if you don't treat yourself with love and dignity, then you can't expect anybody else to do the same for you. Love yourself first, and respect yourself first. Set boundaries with people, and if those people don't respect your boundaries, then those people are not meant for you in this life. These principles are super, super important to grasping the concept of this principle. Once you understand that, you don't have to fight every battle that comes your way, and life will be easier! Your life and your depression and your anxiety will become significantly lower, and you'll just realize that you only need to handle the business that is sitting right in front of you. Focus on tasks that you can control, which is your job, the company that you keep, the education you receive, thoughts, habits and diets that you feed. Understanding the things that you can control is an important key to this principle, and in life in general. Once you understand the things that you are in control of, you can take full accountability and responsibility of these tasks. Then, and only then, will you be able to fully find all the areas where you can grow in life. That's why this next principle is also super, super important and why I think that this principle is one of my second favorites. Know your limits and exceed them safely, is next week's blog post. Together, we will go over why this is one of the principles in my mission statement and why I feel like others should also implement this principle in their lives. Bye for now! Like and follow for more Click here to donate today!